- Get a job
- Move out of the 'rents
- Get laid
You?
The ranting of a Loka Latina que no tiene nothing better to do.
I have become the grinch. I am ruining Christmas for everyone at home. I don't know how to stop it. My father speaks to me and I answer back rudely. I have started to insult him and I really don't care anymore. My sister wants to hang out but she speaks to me and I just get annoyed by her. My mother and other sibling are doing ok; I just don't know what to do. I know the problem is me. I had convinced my self that a single hitting thirty living at home was okay, but I just can't convince myself anymore. I am trying to find a stable job in order to move out and really start forming my own life, but I just can't seem to land a job. I come home and lock myself in my room for up to twelve hours and I know that is not healthy. I love to write here it is much cheaper than a shrink. Sometime people just need to release their thoughts. Maybe it releases the negative energy and gives way to the positive flow.
I don't know if this shit is true, but it is better than believing it will stay like this for ever.
Hope everyone has some good holidays.
I sit here wasting away doing nothing, I still can not motivate myself to do something. I look around and see others aspiring to be someone and I still sit here just looking into a screen that will give no answers. I look and look as if to see that maybe it will be able to show me where I need to be. I feel lost as if I will never find my way. I feel as if I have no freedom, as if I am tree that has been planted and its roots have taken hold of the earth and don’t want to let go even if its leaves shake with desire of freedom. Those few instances of hope, when the wind comes and blows and blows, freedom seem so close, but nothing. The leaves look up into the sky wishing they could go with it, not knowing that there will be a day when they are free, and hoping they were still attached to the tree.
Will the same thing happen to me?
*Photo taken from this site.
¿Si hay algo lo que se llama amor latino?
¿Han escuchado la canción de Carlos Vives que se llama “Amor Latino”?
Hay maneras de amar diferentes, te quiero contar
que en mi pueblo se quiere mi gente, que no tiene igual,
y en mi pueblo latino se siente, en mi pueblo latino se crece,
una forma de amar diferente, que hoy hiere cantar.
Pues ya saben que era o será las días de las madres por ahí en el mundo. So, I decided, aunque me quejo mucho de ella, to write about this wonderful lady that gave me life. And then others can share what you want about your Madre.
I was going to write a whole biography about her but decided against it. I will just write down things about her that makes me smile, laugh, cry or just want to scream at her.
Mi madre me grita when she is mad at others, of course she screams at me when she is mad at me as well. I smile, sometimes.
Mi madre se ríe cuando comienza a bailar conmigo y mis siblings we can be dancing like idiots, looking like monkeys jumping from tree to tree, but it is still fun. Me divierto.Mi madre no tiene compasión, bueno no mucha, cuando me enfermo y no voy al doctor y me pongo grave. Me dice, "Te lo dije." I just smile.
Mi madre screams at me to do something, when I am in the process of doing it. I just smile in frustration.
Mi madre pulls the guilt card, every time I don't reach my potential. I just give her a hug.
Mi madre has an uncanny way of saying the right word to piss me off, even if she is being helpful. I just roll my eyes, respectfully.
Mi madres tells me she loves me. I give her a kiss.
Mi madre is perfect in a very human way. I love her, even if I want to run away from her on occasions.
I need some respuestas.
¿Que pasa con la juventud de hoy? I know everybody always asks the same question, but do you think that they don’t care or are they just being forgotten. I mean from personal experience (i.e. I once was a teenager and dealing with teenagers, currently) some of them just don’t seem to care. Se meten en problemas and they act
I have also noticed that their peers have the greatest influence on them. Example, I know of a teenager that by herself she will do her homework, go to work, and be somewhat responsible, but mix her boyfriend or friends and she becomes this child that is disrespectful towards her family, gets in to fights for the dumbest reason, fails classes and just thinks that her family is getting in the way and doesn’t know what she has gone through. I mean can’t they see that their friends are not helping.
Otra cosa que me choca is when kids say they got into pandillas so they can know what a family feels like. Te la paso that there are some kids out there that are completely forgotten by family but that is not an excuse to be a pendejo, succeed and show them what you are capable of don’t just be another statistic
I have also encountered others that have a loving family that cares about them and still say that they don’t have any family until they joined their clica. Give me a break.
You guys are probably tired of hearing the same stuff, so aqui le corto.
Another thing, I am not saying the whole youth is like this. These might be the exceptions or maybe the ones that succeed, but I just had to vent.
Issues presented in the Handbook of Psychotherapy for Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia edited by David M. Garner and Paul Garfinkel (1985). This section entitled "Prejudice against Obesity" on pages 520-522 states the following:Women are encouraged to diet not only because of the virtues associated with slenderness, but also because of the unparalleled social stigma against obesity. It has been suggested the "public derision and condemnation of fat people is one of the few remaining sanctioned social prejudices . . . allowed against any group based solely on appearance" (Fitzgerald, 1981, p.223). There is evidence that obese individuals are denied educational opportunities, jobs, promotion and housing because of their weight (Bray, 1976; Canning & Mayer, 1966; Karris, 1977). However, disdain toward obesity begins much earlier. Several studies have documented that grade-school children consistently attribute negative qualities to larger body shapes (Lerner, 1969, 1973; Lerner & Gelbert, 1969; Lerner & Korn, 1972; Staffieri, 1967, 1972). Both normal-weight and overweight children describe obese silhouettes as "stupid," "dirty," "lazy," "sloppy," "mean," "ugly," and "sad," among other pejorative labels (Allon, 1975; Staffieri, 1967, 1972). Earlier studies reported that drawings of obese children were evaluated less favorably than drawings of children who were physically handicapped or disfigured (Goodman, Dornbusch, Richardson, & Hastorf, 1963; Richardson, Goodman, Hastorf, & Dornbusch, 1961). Even more incredible is the finding that professionals, including psychiatrists, psychologists, and social workers, also ranked the obese figures as less desirable. In a comprehensive review of these and other studies, O.W. Wooley, Wooley, and Dyrenforth (1979) suggest that these prejudices "learned in childhood no doubt become the basis for self-hatred among those who become overweight at later ages, and a source of anxiety and self-doubt for anyone fearful of becoming overweight" (p.83).
A new generation of insults
By Selicia Kennedy-Ross
Fatso.
Bubblebutt.
Big fat seal.
Tell the overweight and obese children who are called these names that words will never hurt them.
Harassed at school and sometimes even by authority figures, these children often are left feeling powerless and depressed. Even suicidal.
What starts as bullying on the playground can end with discrimination in the workplace - even at the hospital by medical staff, studies show.
Experts say overweight children are more ostracized by their peers today than they were 40 years ago.
"We were wondering if obesity would be more accepted today because of its increased prevalence and visibility," said Janet Latner, an assistant professor at the University of Canterbury in New Zealand.
Latner worked on a 2001 study of 415 New Jersey middle school students that indicates stigmatization of overweight children has grown 40 percent since 1961.
Not good news for the 9 million children who are overweight or obese in the United States, where the prevalence of obesity has tripled in children 6 to 11 and doubled among adolescents 12 to 19 since the 1970s.
Latner and fellow researcher Albert Stunkard replicated a 1961 study that polled 458 fifth- and sixth-graders from various backgrounds. Both groups were asked to rank six drawings of different children by how much they liked each child.
The drawings were of:
• A child using a wheelchair.
• A child missing a hand.
• A child with a disfigured face.
• A child holding crutches and wearing a leg brace.
• A slim child.
• An overweight child.
Children in both 1961 and 2001 repeatedly ranked the overweight child as least favorable overall, while ranking the slim child highest. But the Latner-Stunkard study also showed the 2001 group was more strongly biased against the overweight child, ranking that child even lower than the 1961 group had, by 40 percent.
Youngsters who are branded as overweight already likely have low self-esteem, said Joanne Ikeda, co-director of the Center for Weight and Health Nutritional Science at UC Berkeley. That puts them at a higher risk for other problems like substance abuse, promiscuity and suicide.
A University of Minnesota study reported that 26 percent of teens who were teased at school and home said they considered suicide. Nine percent attempted it.
"Few problems in childhood have as significant an impact as being overweight," Ikeda said. "We tend to have this bizarre belief as a society that making obese people feel bad is for their own good because if they felt bad enough or if they just tried hard enough they could be thin.
"When a group of people are stigmatized and treated as badly as fat people are - how could you come out of that? Obviously, they will be depressed. Often our self-esteem is reflected by people around us, and if people around us think we're bad, we begin to believe that, too."
A 1995 study by Finnish researchers at Helsinki University Hospital published in the International Journal of Obesity concluded that obese people are "subject to intense prejudice and discrimination."
Children as young as 6 describe their overweight peers as "lazy, dirty, stupid, ugly, cheats and liars."
The stigma of being overweight cuts two ways - one for the body's appearance and the other for the person's lack of moral character in their "failure on not controlling one's weight," according to the study.
Cultural conditioning is so deep that some 3-year-olds characterize their chubby peers as "bad" and thin children as "good," Latner said.
Nick, a 9-year-old fourth-grader at Smiley Elementary School in Redlands, said he would want to date a skinny girl rather than a heavier girl because the thinner girl was more likely to have "a nicer car and place."
He also said the thinner girl would have done better in school and college because she "listened in class better" than the heavier girl.
Yale University researchers conducted a number of studies documenting how overweight people are discriminated against in the areas of employment, education, health care, adoption proceedings, jury selection and housing.
Among the findings:
• 28 percent of teachers in one study said that becoming obese is the worst thing that can happen to a person.
• 24 percent of nurses said that they are repulsed by obese people.
• Parents provided less financial college support for their overweight children than for their thin children.
"Fat is the last great prejudice we've held on to," said Judi Hollis, a psychologist, family therapist and author of the book, "Fat Is A Family Affair."
"We can't hate people of color any more, but we can sure hate fat people," Hollis said. "We either think of it as something that's not really a problem or something to ridicule."
Parents, however, can take steps to empower their children.
They can reassure heavy children that having a large body doesn't mean they are bad and they can encourage a healthful lifestyle, such as a eating healthful foods and having a daily hour of active play, experts said.
Children who are overweight or obese should act as other children do, Ikeda said. They should get involved in clubs at school, go to dances and be sociable.
"It takes a tremendous amount of personal character to be able to do that in a society where stigmatization of obese people is not only tolerated but supported," Ikeda said. "And to tell themselves that other people are not going to determine their life for them."
Parents also should stand up for their children if they are being teased or discriminated against. Get teachers and school administrators involved, if necessary. While some overweight children are quick with witty or clever comebacks, most are beaten down by society's preoccupation with thinness, Ikeda said.
Carlos Ruelas, a 9-year-old Rialto boy, deals with cruel comments from children in his neighborhood because he is overweight. He weighs roughly 90 pounds and is less than 5 feet tall.
"It happens when I'm outside playing - some people call me `fatso' and stuff," he said. "I ignore them or I walk away. Sometimes I tell them to stop but sometimes they keep doing it."
Carlos plays right field on a Little League baseball team. One of the team's best players, he is good at stealing bases and driving in runs.
He sometimes tries to compensate for his weight by excelling in sports and said the children who torment him are usually surprised when he does well in athletics.
"If I do good in sports, they leave me alone."
I'm a Latina, mas bien, a Mexicana. Born in Los Angeles mis padres came from Mexico for a better life and all that other stuff. Realized that Los Angeles wouldn't work for all those dreams so when I was starting that 7th grade we were uprooted from California para ir a Colorado. Mis padres are from a small unknown nomad tribe of Mexico, or so yo pensaba, since we moved so much. Pero no that is not the case we just moved a lot. Ahora, I still didn't know who I was in California. You know I wasn't the only Mexican in Cali. so I really had no knowledge of who I was. Then, bam, I'm in Colorado going to some ESL school, aunque, I spoke English and in Cali. I never went to ESL classes, because I knew English, and it wasn't going to get any better no matter what classes I took. Now I was going to school with a lot of Asian kids, which was cool because they had delicious food. Pero through the Asian kids I realized who I was. I was super Mexican. Can you believe it that out of the whole ESL program in that middle school I was the only Hispanic? Well, it’s true. All the other Hispanic kids were third or fourth generation, so no hablaban nada de Espanish. But, then we moved to a gringo neighborhood where the few Hispanics were either third or fourth generation or so mainstreamed that they were just white. Pero es okay, because I was there to teach them a bit of la cultura. Y ahora I don’t even have to worry since my high school is like fifty percent Hispanics. HA!
Pero como dice la gente,"Si no te gusta then don't do it." or in this case don't read it.
This will be my Diario. I am going to start desde mi infancia until presente. Hopefully, I find some chidas hermanas out there.
"Whatever games are played with us, we must play no games with ourselves."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson